How to realign with your goals

It’s a popular belief that if you want to achieve something then you have to set some goals to help that happen, as they say - a dream without a plan is just a wish - and I would tend to agree with that, but what if those goals you set out and the dream you had planned for suddenly had to shift, or even be scrapped all together?

When life takes a sudden twist or something unexpected happens it can leave you feeling lost, that sense of having to abandon your goals and let go of what you thought was possible is frustrating at the very least, if it was a big life plan you can find yourself grappling with heart break and overwhelm and even if it wasn’t it’s annoying still having to let go of something that felt important to you.

I’m guessing you're here because to some varying degree this is where you find yourself now, with a plan that’s become invalid and goals or intentions that need re-prioritising. 

For some people that might be a hard pill to swallow but where ever you sit, there’s still hope, a simple realignment to those goals and plans is all it takes and together we can get you back on track again!

• First off - take a look at your original goal or plan, evaluate what still feels real and important to you and what doesn’t resonate any more. It may be that some of the things you wanted to achieve have organically changed now anyway.

• When you’ve decided what’s not possible or aligned with you are anymore it’s time to connect to what is. It may be that some of your old goals just need to be pivoted, this next step is a nice way to get a bit creative with yourself and think outside the box. If you do find yourself having to scrap your dreams altogether you may want to skip to the last step.

• If finances are the obstacle now what can you strive for free? For example can you take a free course, make over a space in your house with resources you already have or a yoga class on You Tube. 

• You may be facing a time problem because of a change in lifestyle, work commitments or location. Can you tweak your daily routine? Is there someone you can ask for help so that you can access the time you need? Ask yourself what small or even big changes can you make to allow it to still happen? 

• Finally, do you need to refocus your goals or plans completely? It may be that outside circumstances or events beyond your control has caused this to happen, or that something in your life has changed or ended and what you once had your sites set on is now no longer possible. If this is your situation first off take some time and allow yourself to grieve over lost plans and dreams, it’s never easy when you have to give up on something you deeply desired. Getting angry or being in denial could be common emotions but the key is to not dwell on it for too long because I truly believe as one door closes another one opens. If this feels hard to connect to trusted people for support, their thoughts and ideas might spark new inspiration, remember just because something didn’t work out doesn’t mean it wasn’t valid or achievable and it might be a matter of you just having to shelve that dream for a while. Take some time to figure out what your next move will be now and don’t be afraid to try out new ideas or goals to find something that fits.

Hopefully there’s at least a drop of inspiration above for you to get started on realigning with your goals and dreams. If your not sure where to start or want to focus on a smaller time frame then you can try out my Month in Review Worksheet which is a free downloadable resource to help you look at how things are for you right now as well as planning goals for the month ahead, it’s located in the workbook section at the top of this page.

Don’t forget to share any thoughts, questions or ideas with me too, you can get in touch by emailing me at 365pearlsofwisdom@gmail.com